I get confused when I encounter people who are seemingly obsessed with viewing the world through this masc/femme and top/bottom situation. To me, this all reeks of maleness. It's like viewing the world through a lens of constant subjugation and I'm not sure why women in particular would want to do that. Am I misunderstanding something?

For example, it would never occur to me to refer to myself as "masculine" or "feminine." That is the doctrine of men. I am a human female. A woman. And the characteristics assigned to women - absent the rule of men - only go as far as descriptors of my sex. Not my clothes, hobbies, or occupation.

If I were to partake in sexual relationships, I'm also not sure why I'd contextualize that as a power differential. Just as I would never view my friendships as a relationship of dominance and submission, I would not do that with a partner. And the reason I seek out men for neither is because... that's what they do. This is the world they made. I'm tossed into an arena for a game I did not agree to play.