Y'all: the D in DARVO stands for denial. Sometimes it's sparkling lies, but often time the clinical level denial is real with these folks. <\/p>
And the -entire function- of denial is to be impervious to facts around whatever they are in denial about. <\/p>
Debating someone in denial doesn't work. You will NOT be the one person that gets through to them. <\/p>
-They- have to crack their own denial, and that will involve bigger losses than looking a fool when they debate. <\/p>
Disempower them in other ways.<\/p>","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265649664377921","status_net":{"notice_id":null}},"to":[{"objectType":"http:\/\/activitystrea.ms\/schema\/1.0\/collection","id":"http:\/\/activityschema.org\/collection\/public"}],"status_net":{"conversation":"tag:gnusocial.jp,2025-09-25:objectType=thread:nonce=03936c37e2c10598","notice_info":{"local_id":"11155709","source":"ActivityPub","repeat_of":"11155619"}},"published":"2025-09-25T16:38:19+00:00","provider":{"objectType":"service","displayName":"GNU social JP","url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/"},"title":"dalias repeated a notice by cjpaloma","verb":"share","url":"https:\/\/hachyderm.io\/users\/dalias\/statuses\/115265817326323899\/activity"},{"actor":{"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma","displayName":"CJ Paloma Likes Longer Days","status_net":{"avatarLinks":[{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-original-tmp20240429161310.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":400,"height":400},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-96-20240503023255.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":96,"height":96},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-48-20240430091858.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":48,"height":48},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-24-20240503023401.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":24,"height":24}],"profile_info":{"local_id":"244908"}},"image":{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-96-20240503023255.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":96,"height":96},"objectType":"person","summary":"Working for a world without billionaires, fascists or bigots having any say in anything. Pro democracy, pro compassion, pro peace, anti social hierarchies based in false assumptions.Power OVER using force or coercion (whether via $, religion, gender, skin tones etc) is stunted and will always fail eventuallyConsent\/cooperation\/shared power are the only healthy ways to go.Also: the 25th Amendment is right there- USE IT.Profile pic: photo of a bunch of different animal tracks in mud","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma","portablecontacts_net":{"preferredUsername":"cjpaloma","displayName":"CJ Paloma Likes Longer Days","note":"Working for a world without billionaires, fascists or bigots having any say in anything. Pro democracy, pro compassion, pro peace, anti social hierarchies based in false assumptions.Power OVER using force or coercion (whether via $, religion, gender, skin tones etc) is stunted and will always fail eventuallyConsent\/cooperation\/shared power are the only healthy ways to go.Also: the 25th Amendment is right there- USE IT.Profile pic: photo of a bunch of different animal tracks in mud"}},"content":"
How to disempower: back away and don't be friends, and tell them why! <\/p>
Flat out say \"I don't trust your judgement about ___because you are so impaired about ____.\" <\/p>
Call it denial to their faces. <\/p>
Refuse to talk about____ with them: and tell them it's because it's useless. <\/p>
Urge them to get mental health help for denial. <\/p>
Don't give them perks or promotions. <\/p>
...I know it's not much! But unfortunately we do not have a lot of good ways to extract people from it (I'm a mh professional)<\/p>","generator":{"id":"tag:gnusocial.jp,2026-08-11:notice-source:ActivityPub","objectType":"application","status_net":{"source_code":"ActivityPub"}},"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma\/statuses\/115265679450936918","object":{"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma\/statuses\/115265679450936918","objectType":"note","content":"
How to disempower: back away and don't be friends, and tell them why! <\/p>
Flat out say \"I don't trust your judgement about ___because you are so impaired about ____.\" <\/p>
Call it denial to their faces. <\/p>
Refuse to talk about____ with them: and tell them it's because it's useless. <\/p>
Urge them to get mental health help for denial. <\/p>
Don't give them perks or promotions. <\/p>
...I know it's not much! But unfortunately we do not have a lot of good ways to extract people from it (I'm a mh professional)<\/p>","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265679450936918","status_net":{"notice_id":null},"inReplyTo":{"objectType":"note","id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma\/statuses\/115265649664377921","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265649664377921"}},"to":[{"objectType":"http:\/\/activitystrea.ms\/schema\/1.0\/collection","id":"http:\/\/activityschema.org\/collection\/public"}],"status_net":{"conversation":"tag:gnusocial.jp,2025-09-25:objectType=thread:nonce=03936c37e2c10598","notice_info":{"local_id":"11155707","source":"ActivityPub"}},"published":"2025-09-25T16:38:10+00:00","provider":{"objectType":"service","displayName":"GNU social JP","url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/"},"verb":"post","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265679450936918"},{"actor":{"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma","displayName":"CJ Paloma Likes Longer Days","status_net":{"avatarLinks":[{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-original-tmp20240429161310.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":400,"height":400},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-96-20240503023255.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":96,"height":96},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-48-20240430091858.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":48,"height":48},{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-24-20240503023401.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":24,"height":24}],"profile_info":{"local_id":"244908"}},"image":{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/avatar\/244908-96-20240503023255.webp","rel":"avatar","type":"image\/webp","width":96,"height":96},"objectType":"person","summary":"Working for a world without billionaires, fascists or bigots having any say in anything. Pro democracy, pro compassion, pro peace, anti social hierarchies based in false assumptions.Power OVER using force or coercion (whether via $, religion, gender, skin tones etc) is stunted and will always fail eventuallyConsent\/cooperation\/shared power are the only healthy ways to go.Also: the 25th Amendment is right there- USE IT.Profile pic: photo of a bunch of different animal tracks in mud","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma","portablecontacts_net":{"preferredUsername":"cjpaloma","displayName":"CJ Paloma Likes Longer Days","note":"Working for a world without billionaires, fascists or bigots having any say in anything. Pro democracy, pro compassion, pro peace, anti social hierarchies based in false assumptions.Power OVER using force or coercion (whether via $, religion, gender, skin tones etc) is stunted and will always fail eventuallyConsent\/cooperation\/shared power are the only healthy ways to go.Also: the 25th Amendment is right there- USE IT.Profile pic: photo of a bunch of different animal tracks in mud"}},"content":"
Y'all: the D in DARVO stands for denial. Sometimes it's sparkling lies, but often time the clinical level denial is real with these folks. <\/p>
And the -entire function- of denial is to be impervious to facts around whatever they are in denial about. <\/p>
Debating someone in denial doesn't work. You will NOT be the one person that gets through to them. <\/p>
-They- have to crack their own denial, and that will involve bigger losses than looking a fool when they debate. <\/p>
Disempower them in other ways.<\/p>","generator":{"id":"tag:gnusocial.jp,2026-08-11:notice-source:ActivityPub","objectType":"application","status_net":{"source_code":"ActivityPub"}},"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma\/statuses\/115265649664377921","object":{"id":"https:\/\/mas.to\/users\/cjpaloma\/statuses\/115265649664377921","objectType":"note","content":"
Y'all: the D in DARVO stands for denial. Sometimes it's sparkling lies, but often time the clinical level denial is real with these folks. <\/p>
And the -entire function- of denial is to be impervious to facts around whatever they are in denial about. <\/p>
Debating someone in denial doesn't work. You will NOT be the one person that gets through to them. <\/p>
-They- have to crack their own denial, and that will involve bigger losses than looking a fool when they debate. <\/p>
Disempower them in other ways.<\/p>","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265649664377921","status_net":{"notice_id":null}},"to":[{"objectType":"http:\/\/activitystrea.ms\/schema\/1.0\/collection","id":"http:\/\/activityschema.org\/collection\/public"}],"status_net":{"conversation":"tag:gnusocial.jp,2025-09-25:objectType=thread:nonce=03936c37e2c10598","notice_info":{"local_id":"11155619","source":"ActivityPub"}},"published":"2025-09-25T16:25:04+00:00","provider":{"objectType":"service","displayName":"GNU social JP","url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/"},"verb":"post","url":"https:\/\/mas.to\/@cjpaloma\/115265649664377921"}],"links":[{"url":"https:\/\/gnusocial.jp\/conversation\/5683251","rel":"alternate","type":"text\/html"}]}